“Loose lips Sink Relationships”
Sometimes we tend to share our relationships wahala or joys with our friends, family and sometimes random colleagues.
There are so many reasons why we do, if you’re riding on the waves of love with le boo, we tend to update our bbm status, update facebook status, ping friends to chat about how AWESOMELICIOUS your boo is and how HE IS THE BESTESTESTEST boo since “booness” began. Most of us are guilty. LOL. Some other times when the ship is not riding smoothly we become inspirational and update with sentimental things that everyone can decipher that, ol’boy, e be like say this one dey fight with her boo.
Nothing wrong with sharing these things with friends if done in moderation; you don’t need to share EVERYTHING! Here are some things you should try NEVER to share with others about your partner, they can and will be used against you.
MONEY – Never tell anyone how much your boo earns, or if you’re having money problems. People don’t need to know this. Who wears the financial pants? Who pays for what? If you have an agreement with le boo about how you both want to manage your finances then this should not be up for debate with your friends. The “you can chop my money” status of your relationship should be hidden.
BEDROOM – Do not share what went down last night, how you were kissed senseless, how does this information affect the price of garri in the market? If your boo is a stallion and he steady gives you the “D”, keep it to yourself unless you don’t mind sharing him? If you’re celibate avoid discussing it too as your friends may envy you, and if you’re not celibate, you may be tagged as “loose”. They will yimu no matter what.
DETAILS – Avoid giving details. “My boo’s favourite food is Amala and gbegiri, my boo scratches her boobs first thing in the morning, my boo doesn’t like this or that”. Why are you furnishing others with this privileged information? Haven’t you heard stories where a friend snatches le boo? Why do you think that happens? They already know your boo’s likes, dislikes, habits e.t.c Do not tell any one where you boo’s mumu button is (thanks Honeydame)
FIGHTS – Couples fight all the time, if you don’t fight in your relationship then I put it to you that you are a liar! LOL. Friction is normal as long as you kiss and make up… but telling your parents, your friends about every single quarrel will not help. Its always awkward because your friends will always be on your side and will keep condemning you boo… after you say they don’t respect him/her, why should they? After you’ve forgiven and moved on, those you told will always remember. This point is null and void if your boo is abusive!
SECRETS – We all have secrets and your boo may have told you some of his/hers, it would be totally out of place for you to share something confidential like that with others. Also, if you have a secret you’re keeping from your boo then you should never tell someone else that “biko I don’t want him/her to find out or my boo doesn’t know about this oh”…you’re only giving outsiders ammunition. What if they accidentally or purposely jabo the gist to your boo? Kasala go burst!
DREAMS/PLANS – Dreams, aspirations, plans are things we share with people we love, when your boo is telling you of the mansion he wants to build in 5 years time, or the business he wants to start, avoid being a tatafo, do NOT share this with anyone. Keep their plans, aspirations between the both of you.
Your partner will feel betrayed when they find out you’ve been talking about your private matters, they wouldn’t trust you with anything; If you discuss these matters with your colleagues it breeds see-finish, biko stop. Your friends will wonder what your saying about them to others if your can be so open with details of your boo’s life. People will think you have no self control… they will never confide in you.